What lifestyle do you really want to Live?

When we decide we want to make changes, we often look to people with the results we want and then see what they are telling us to do, and then we try and do it. We don’t however often think whether we want to/can or even “have” to, do the things we set out to do.

An example for you is that five years ago, I wanted to be leaner than I was. I finally got my head into the head space and I began building habits. 

I began meal prepping. I began doing 3 x 30 mins cardio on the treadmill. I began doing hiit workouts that included burpees. I began training 6 days a week. I stopped eating butter on my jacket potato. I began saying no to free cookies. 

The problem with these habits were this. 

I don't want to be the person that turns away a free cookie. I don't. I don't care what that says about me. I want to always accept a free cookie (if its a cookie I like the look of) if its a raisin cookie, move on, keep it, but if its a white choc macadamia nut cookie, I don't wanna be the girl that turns it down. 

I also don't want to walk on a treadmill as a habit. Maybe sometimes I'll do some cardio. But I don't want to do that as a regular thing. I've got better things to do. I also don't want to do burpees. Never again. I do not like them. So why would I keep doing them in my workout. I also love butter on a jacket potato. I went for years without it cos I thought Id rather those fats go towards something else. But bollocks. The once in a blue moon I do have a jacket. You bet my life on it, I want bloody butter too. Another thing. I don't want to train 6 days a week. I've got other things I wanna achieve. TV shows I wanna watch, books I wanna read, people I wanna  see. 

But more than anything... I do not want to meal prep. 

I do not want to spend 3 hrs of my Sunday meal prepping meals that by the time it gets to Wednesday I wanna vom at the sight of a sweaty tupperware. I also don't want to clean stacks of dutty tupperware and more than that, I don't want to search high and low for the lids, never to find them ever again. 

My point. Don't waste "your" time building habits that you do not want to build. IF they are not even that conducive to "your" goals.

Of course. There are compromises you may make when you want to reach goals. As long as that compromise is not your health, you have choices in which ones you wanna make (and don't)

 There will be things that you may not wanna do but you might have to. And yes, you decide how much you want it... 

Ie fat loss. To lose fat you have to be in a deficit. No two ways about it. But the thing is. How you create the deficit is a choice you can make.

Disclaimer: You do not HAVE to lose weight. Build muscle. "do fitness" You have a choice. You can decide to be happy NOT doing any of those things. But you have to consciously make that decision that you will accept where you are now. If you don't want to be, then make the changes and figure out which ones you "can" make. Do NOT chose to live the same lifestyle you live, expecting things to change, but then keep reiterating how unhappy you are. That is soul destroying for you.

If you WANT to make changes and you learn how to that “suits” your lifestyle and these changes can make you feel good, then do it. But do not hate every second of it. If you do, you maybe need to change your perception on the things you are doing. Find the positives in them. There is always a lesson there somewhere. (wanky wellness 101: Grattitude and lesson learning)

I only ever want to share with you a more "healthy" less obsessive, more "well" way of getting the lifestyle you want, perhaps with a bi-product of a body you are comfy in. (that body you are comfy in does not need to look a particular way fyi) even if we are brain washed into thinking that.

Sacrifices do get made along the way for things you really want. But again, I can't say this enough.

Don't sacrifice your health and happiness to get them. 

There are also things that will be very dependent on where you are at in your journey. Right now...

Your wants can change. It's totally OK for your wants to move around in your priority list. 

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